One tiny but hard change that can actually help you to realise your true value
Sometimes, you've to put aside what you feel for someone or something and you have to get a little sidelined to get a new perspective. The perspective will tell you how things are going when you aren't involved in it. How is that person reacting to things when you aren't around? What's happening with the thing you care about when you are not around. Sometimes it's just that you need to get away for a lil while to get to know how it is going in your absence and realise if you are really looking forward to the right things in life.
The secret ingredient is to become a little secret
If you find that the people who you care too much about or the thing that you are ready to pay any price for aren't really bothered by who you are then I guess you'll get the answers about why your presence isn't needed there anymore. You may have something really valuable but it's crucial that the valuable things must be given out to the right people. You can never impress a 5 year old kid with a bouquet of flowers and a 25 year old lady with a toy truck. In simpler terms, all I'm saying is that your ideas, plans & efforts are really valuable but they aren't meant to be valuable for everyone.
Sometimes you just have to be quiet for a while to realise what the noise around you is telling you. If you find out that people around you don't bother to listen to what you've got then you don't need to be disappointed by that. Instead, it's a good thing that now you know that there are other people out there who will value what they have and you just have to move towards them and away from the ones not recognising your value. No matter if it's a job where you are performing great but not getting something out of it or any idea that you are pitching to people but not just getting their attention on that.
Never accept anyone else’s version of you
The world is too huge to not accept anything that is worth accepting. There is enough place for everyone and never let anyone fool you by saying that you aren't good enough. Every big thing started up as an idea and then it grew up to be what it actually is & people only started caring about those things when they actually became big.
The point is that you might not be getting appreciated for what you do at this point of your life. You might be feeling badly degraded and disregarded by everyone and everything. But trust me, life has a lot more to show you than just these small days full of setbacks. Your setbacks are a sign that you really tried but it didn't just happen for you. But they aren't the full stop in your story. They are in fact those down moments which you are going to remember and share with everyone after finally making it big in life.
Let me serve this straight to you. If you love someone and you feel like they don't really care about you then be absent from their life for a while because your availability will never make them realise if they really need you or not. If they find themselves struggling without you then they are gonna make sure that you are being valued by them. Else, if the opposite happens then you know that you don't have to serve those people who don't find you as a good fit for them because trust me, you are way bigger and better than that.
Not just love, but if your ideas aren't getting attention by your office people, your friends aren't really bothered about what you have to say or you are trying to do something for people but they don't really bother about your efforts then it's better to move a little away from those places because nobody will ever say it on your face that you aren't welcomed there. You yourself have to realise what's wrong around you and what needs to change.
- Never wait for people to tell you that you aren’t wanted by them. Realise it by their actions and value yourself accordingly.
- Never try to convince someone to be interested in you if they’ve sufficiently indicated to you that they really don’t bother about what you do.
- Timing is the key. You find that you might have a chance on something then try to capitalise it as soon as you can. But, if you find that wherever you are, you aren’t getting the right treatment for your efforts then move away because it gets worse with the delay.
- Love yourself the way you want others to love you.
- Remember to appreciate yourself from time to time because you might not find good people around you all the time but you need to be good to yourself all the time. You are your biggest support system.