Types of people who suck your positivity
In my life of 25 years I have come across plenty of people and trust me when we are lonely in our twenties we literally allow almost every type of people to stay around us. Mostly when we are looking forward to open our hearts for dating or just making new friends, at a certain point we just start understanding the types of people we have around us.
With that experience from my high school, college & now in job. I am sharing my POV with you so that if you are having toxic people around you & you are unaware about the amount of your energy they are draining, then now you’d be able to figure that out.
So, here are three toxic traits in people if you ever notice then it is much better to stay away from them.
The ones who need a babysitter
You must be having people around you who only remember you when they are either in a very bad mood or they need someone to help them to calm down when they are overwhelmed by something.
But here is the catch, they don’t really bother about your existence when everything is smooth in their life. They won’t remember you when everything is working out just fine and they are happy with their life. That is not what you need in your life.
You need to understand that there are friends who really need your help at times but they are also around you when things are going well. The real ones not only bother you when they are sad but also get bothered about you being sad at certain times. Real friends are those who understand your emotions without actually communicating that out loud with them.
Next time you find a person around you who only seeks you when they are upset then remember they are not really your friends, they are just digging your vibe in order to get back to their normal self.
They ultimately carry negative energy with them when they are upset about things and they come to you only to feel good but that communication exchanges the energies between you & them which ultimately leads you to have negative thoughts in return for giving out your positive vibe to them.
Keep that thing in mind that those who are celebrating with others but crying only to you, aren’t really the ones worthy enough to be rewarded with the good in you.
The ones seeking an extra pair of parents
Sometimes we fail to notice some people around us who only come to us in order to learn something or to earn something. Listen, it’s a fact that if you are good at something and people around you know that, then chances are high that some of them are gonna try an exploit you a little.
Just take it as an example that if you are good at your studies & you have plenty of knowledge about a subject. There would be people around you who’ll only be seen when there are exams approaching or they have to learn something about that subject.
They are going to remember you only when they figure out that they are pretty doomed and if someone can help them in this situation then it might be just you. Maybe, because you are easy prey for them. They know that you’d consider them as a good friend & you’d help them out but as soon as that time passes by you won’t be remembered by them for the time until they have to fight another test.
Similar to that there are people who once figure out that if you are financially stable then they might be privileged by your company. They ask for financial help when they are in trouble. But, the same people can be easily seen hanging out with others while having the time of their lives & that time they might completely forget about your existence.
Here is the point, plenty of people in your life will guide you to be selfless & help every possible person you could in your way. But here is the harsh truth if you stay selfless like that then people are going to take advantage of you from time to time & trust me that sucks.
I am not saying that you should not help anyone in need. What I am saying is that don’t be silly while helping out people. Just be a little aware of the wolves around you & never let anyone take advantage of you.
Because once you let people get benefitted from you for giving you nothing but a hard time then it will gradually lead to heartbreaks, lasting memories of getting backstabbed & ultimately being the one who has been taken advantage of leads you to lose faith in humanity even more & I won’t ever want you to progress towards that path.
The ones who love to trash talk
Who doesn’t enjoy a bit of healthy gossip with friends? I enjoy it a lot. But, here is the catch. I don’t just enjoy listening to trash talk that someone has got about someone. Instead, I only enjoy with the friends I share a great bond with.
So, if someone who is really close to me comes to me and makes fun of somebody or trash talks about someone then I don’t mind joining that person because that person is one of my real friends and we are allowed to have that sort of fun together.
What really bugs me is when someone I don’t really share a bond with comes to me and starts talking trash about someone else. Because let’s face it, they give out a vibe that makes us feel like they might do the same about us when we are not around. This gives an insecure feeling when that person is around and we usually restrict our behavior in front of those people so that we do not become a part of their vicious trash talk with someone else.
Never participate with the ones who always have got to say something bad about someone to you because they are definitely doing the same about you when you aren’t around. It’s just a matter of time for them and you really don’t need that kind of negativity around you.
Participating in something negative makes you negative as well and that’s something we all need to stay away from. So it is crucial to watch every step we take when such people are around us because they are always looking out for their new targets.
With this article, I do not intend to say that you should not make friends easily. I am just trying to tell you that there are plenty of people out there who aren’t supposed to be in your life but are easy to come somehow into your circle.
That’s why just remember that good friendships are always two-way. Both ends need to play their parts equally & if you ever find someone not playing their part well, that’s where you should start noticing the red flags. The later you are going to notice the higher will be your chances to end up getting hurt. Let’s remember our basics & keep our surroundings positive in order to stay on the right track & avoid unnecessary emotional damages in our day-to-day life.
We are already surrounded by plenty of challenges in this competitive era. Let’s just not allow anyone else to complicate things for us anymore by being responsible for ourselves & keeping ourselves first every time.